6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure 

1. Change your attitude about failing 

Be mindful of your own responses to mistakes and failure. Talk about what you've learned, and be willing to pick yourself up and try again.

Encourage and celebrate your child's mistakes as learning experiences. 

2. Emphasize effort, not ability 

Emphasize effort ( and the process ) over ability ( and the outcome). 

When they struggle, discuss specific strategies that might work next time. 

3. Demonstrate Unconditional love

Make it clear that you love your child unconditionally, even when they make mistakes or use poor judgement. 

4. Conduct the "Worst-Case  Scenario" Exercise 

Start by grabbing a piece of paper so you can brainstorm together with you child. 

Ask Them questions like. "If it all goes wrong, what's the worst thing that could happen?"

5. Help them Focus on the Solution 

Discuss what actions they took, the consequences of these actions, and how these consequences can be avoided in the future.

Ask question like: "What Went wrong?"

"How can you fix or prevent this next time?"

6. Have conversations about success and failure 

Talk about success using the "iceberg analogy."

Explain that when you see successful people, you only see the tip of the iceberg. You don't see what's under the water ,"failures, rejection, grit, effort, discipline, persistence, etc. 

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For Extroverts: 12 Ways to Be a Better Parent to Your Introverted Kid

For Extroverts: 12 Ways to Be a Better Parent to Your Introverted Kid

You’re confused by your kid. She doesn’t act the way you did when you were growing up. She’s hesitant and reserved. Instead of diving in to play, she’d rather stand back and watch the other kids. She talks to you in fits and starts—sometimes she rambles on, telling you stories, but other times, she’s silent, and you can’t figure out what’s going on in her head. She spends a lot of time alone in her bedroom. Her teacher says he wishes she’d participate more in class. Her social life is limited to two people. Even weirder, she seems totally okay with that.

Congratulations: you’ve got an introvert.

It’s not unusual for extroverted parents to worry about their introverted children and even wonder if their behavior is mentally and emotionally healthy. Of course, children can suffer from anxiety and depression, just as adults can.

How to care for your introverted child

  Know that there is nothing unusual or shameful about being an introvert

        Understand that your child’s temperament is due to biology

        Introduce your child to new people and situations slowly

        Remind your child that she can take breaks from socializing if she feels overwhelmed or tired

       Point out when she ends up enjoying something she was initially afraid of

       Help your child cultivate her passions

      Talk to your child’s teachers about her introversion

      Teach your child to stand up for herself

           Make sure your child feels “heard”

       Don’t take it personally when your child needs time alone

        Be aware that your child might not ask for help

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3 Ways to Handle a Bad Report Card

3 Ways to Handle a Bad Report Card

Every parent wants to know that their child is smart. Whether your child is a bubbly first grader or a moody teenager, you want what’s best for your child. When your youngster brings home a report card, it’s natural to hope that your little one’s grades are good. Unfortunately, for many families, this isn’t the reality. Whether your child has one bad grade or an entire report card of bad grades, it’s important that you demonstrate to your child that you still care.

Focus on the good

For some parents, an easy response to a bad report card is, “I can’t believe your grades are so bad” or “What were you thinking?” Remember that for children, a report card can be incredibly intimidating and scary. Instead of focusing on one bad grade or even a report card full of grades, try to point out the positive aspects of your child’s report card. For example, you could say, “This gives you something to strive for,” or “I noticed you got a ‘B’ in Math! That’s great!” Try to find at least one good thing to say to your child. Even if the entire report card is completely rotten, something like, “I know you’re trying your best,” can go a long way in making your child feel loved.

Get your child the help he needs

Sometimes kids just need a little extra help. Whether your child struggles with math, history, or science, it’s important that you recognize when a traditional education isn’t working.

Remind your child that no one is perfect

Was there a time when you failed? Have you ever struggled to get good grades? Did you ever feel like your parents were disappointed in you? Why not talk with your child about it? Let your little one know that you know what it’s like to feel alone. Let your youngster know that you’ve felt scared, sad, and disappointed before. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect, no matter how hard they try to be. Let your child know that you’re still proud of them, even if the report card wasn’t perfect.

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5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

 Give Daily Doses of Positive Attention

Non-compliance can be a great way for kids to get lots of attention. And even though it's negative attention, some kids crave it anyway. Ward off attention-seeking behavior by giving your child daily doses of positive attention. Play a game together, spend time talking, or go for a walk.

 Give Effective Instructions

Make sure the defiant behavior you’re witnessing is actually defiance. If your child didn't hear you or he's too distracted playing his video game that he isn't listening, you may need to change how you give directions. Establish eye contact or put a hand on your child's shoulder to get his attention before you speak. Turn off the background noise and make sure your child is paying attention so you he can absorb what you're telling him to do. 

Offer Choices

One of the best ways to combat defiant behavior is to offer two choices. Then, your child will feel like she has some control over the situation. Avoid questions like, "Do you want to get dressed now?" because a defiant child will automatically say, "No!" Ask a questions like, “Do you want to wear your red shirt or the yellow shirt?” Just make sure you can live with either choice.

Establish a Behavior Contract

Behavior contracts remind children that they can earn more privileges once they show they can behave responsibly. Set up a behavior contract that will help your child show you when he’s ready for more privileges

Create a Reward System

Create a reward system that gives your child an incentive to be compliant. Provide frequent positive reinforcement and consider creating a token economy system to keep your child on track.

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Teaching healthy habits and values to your kids

Teaching healthy habits and values to your kids

Eating Healthy and Well: Good healthy eating habits for kids are of utmost importance in the formative years. Though sometimes it may become quite challenging for you, the key is, to make the food look appealing to your child. Refrain from feeding junk and sugary food your child. Make them aware of the ill-effects of eating unhealthy food and help them in making right choices in food.

Outdoor Activities: Along with a good diet, it is very important for a kid to be physically active. Prompt your kid to spend more time in outdoor activities.

Sleeping On Time: Good sleep helps the child feel rejuvenated and fresh for the day. Set up a sleeping routine for your child and adhere to it. Irregular sleeping hours can make your child irritable and erratic.

Breakfast-The Most Important Meal of the Day: Never let your kid skip breakfast as it will give them the energy for the day.

Inculcate Good Reading Habits: Reading habit is very good for every child. Reading not only helps in grasping a language better but a child learns to become more imaginative and creative

Spending Time with The Family: Spending time with the family is very important for a growing child. They not only learn to bond with the family members, but also the importance of spending quality family time together. 

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