6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure 

1. Change your attitude about failing 

Be mindful of your own responses to mistakes and failure. Talk about what you've learned, and be willing to pick yourself up and try again.

Encourage and celebrate your child's mistakes as learning experiences. 

2. Emphasize effort, not ability 

Emphasize effort ( and the process ) over ability ( and the outcome). 

When they struggle, discuss specific strategies that might work next time. 

3. Demonstrate Unconditional love

Make it clear that you love your child unconditionally, even when they make mistakes or use poor judgement. 

4. Conduct the "Worst-Case  Scenario" Exercise 

Start by grabbing a piece of paper so you can brainstorm together with you child. 

Ask Them questions like. "If it all goes wrong, what's the worst thing that could happen?"

5. Help them Focus on the Solution 

Discuss what actions they took, the consequences of these actions, and how these consequences can be avoided in the future.

Ask question like: "What Went wrong?"

"How can you fix or prevent this next time?"

6. Have conversations about success and failure 

Talk about success using the "iceberg analogy."

Explain that when you see successful people, you only see the tip of the iceberg. You don't see what's under the water ,"failures, rejection, grit, effort, discipline, persistence, etc. 

#Utsaah Psychology Clinic

if you have any question don't hesitate contact us:

www.utsaah.co

Ph: 9891717772

What Is the Best Way to Deal With Temper Tantrums?

What Is the Best Way to Deal With Temper Tantrums?

Does your child throws himself to the ground, screams, and kicks his feet? You're not alone. All kids throw temper tantrums every once in a while.

Reasons for Temper Tantrums

When your child exhibits a colossal meltdown, take a minute to examine the underlying reason. Kids have tantrums for two main reasons—the inability to manage their emotions or an attempt to control the situation.

Don’t Give In to Stop the Temper Tantrum

Make sure temper tantrums aren't effective for your child. If he throws a fit in the store because he wants you to buy him a toy, don’t buy him one. Giving in might make things easier in the short-term because it will make the tantrum stop. In the long run, it will only reinforce to your child that tantrums are a good way to get what he wants.

Provide Negative Consequence for Tantrums

Temper tantrums need negative consequences so your child will learn not to throw them. Ignoring the behaviour can be a great strategy to reduce tantrums. After all, it's not much fun to pitch a fit without an audience.

Look the other way, pretend you don't hear anything, and act as though you aren't bothered by your child's temper tantrum. Although the screaming may get louder at first, your child will eventually learn that throwing a temper tantrum won't get your attention.

Sometimes, a timeout is warranted as well. If your child’s behaviours are too disruptive for him to remain in a store, for example, take him to the car for a timeout. Then continue your shopping trip when he is calm.

#Utsaah Psychology Clinic
if you have any question don't hesitate contact us:
www.utsaah.co
Ph: 9891717772

For Extroverts: 12 Ways to Be a Better Parent to Your Introverted Kid

For Extroverts: 12 Ways to Be a Better Parent to Your Introverted Kid

You’re confused by your kid. She doesn’t act the way you did when you were growing up. She’s hesitant and reserved. Instead of diving in to play, she’d rather stand back and watch the other kids. She talks to you in fits and starts—sometimes she rambles on, telling you stories, but other times, she’s silent, and you can’t figure out what’s going on in her head. She spends a lot of time alone in her bedroom. Her teacher says he wishes she’d participate more in class. Her social life is limited to two people. Even weirder, she seems totally okay with that.

Congratulations: you’ve got an introvert.

It’s not unusual for extroverted parents to worry about their introverted children and even wonder if their behavior is mentally and emotionally healthy. Of course, children can suffer from anxiety and depression, just as adults can.

How to care for your introverted child

  Know that there is nothing unusual or shameful about being an introvert

        Understand that your child’s temperament is due to biology

        Introduce your child to new people and situations slowly

        Remind your child that she can take breaks from socializing if she feels overwhelmed or tired

       Point out when she ends up enjoying something she was initially afraid of

       Help your child cultivate her passions

      Talk to your child’s teachers about her introversion

      Teach your child to stand up for herself

           Make sure your child feels “heard”

       Don’t take it personally when your child needs time alone

        Be aware that your child might not ask for help

#Utsaah Psychology Clinic

if you have any question don't hesitate contact us:

www.utsaah.com

Ph: 9891717772

3 Ways to Handle a Bad Report Card

3 Ways to Handle a Bad Report Card

Every parent wants to know that their child is smart. Whether your child is a bubbly first grader or a moody teenager, you want what’s best for your child. When your youngster brings home a report card, it’s natural to hope that your little one’s grades are good. Unfortunately, for many families, this isn’t the reality. Whether your child has one bad grade or an entire report card of bad grades, it’s important that you demonstrate to your child that you still care.

Focus on the good

For some parents, an easy response to a bad report card is, “I can’t believe your grades are so bad” or “What were you thinking?” Remember that for children, a report card can be incredibly intimidating and scary. Instead of focusing on one bad grade or even a report card full of grades, try to point out the positive aspects of your child’s report card. For example, you could say, “This gives you something to strive for,” or “I noticed you got a ‘B’ in Math! That’s great!” Try to find at least one good thing to say to your child. Even if the entire report card is completely rotten, something like, “I know you’re trying your best,” can go a long way in making your child feel loved.

Get your child the help he needs

Sometimes kids just need a little extra help. Whether your child struggles with math, history, or science, it’s important that you recognize when a traditional education isn’t working.

Remind your child that no one is perfect

Was there a time when you failed? Have you ever struggled to get good grades? Did you ever feel like your parents were disappointed in you? Why not talk with your child about it? Let your little one know that you know what it’s like to feel alone. Let your youngster know that you’ve felt scared, sad, and disappointed before. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect, no matter how hard they try to be. Let your child know that you’re still proud of them, even if the report card wasn’t perfect.

#Utsaah Psychology Clinic

if you have any question don't hesitate contact us:

www.utsaah.co

Ph: 9891717772