Tips to help you not take things so personally

1- Realize that it’s not about you.

If someone is being rude to you or insulting you, that’s not about you. If they weren’t struggling with something about themselves, they wouldn’t feel the need to be crappy to you. Happy people don’t feel the need to bring others down.

2- Challenge your perfectionism.

People who struggle with perfectionism have an especially hard time dealing with negative remarks from people. If that’s you, it’s time to challenge your perfectionism. Stop thinking that you have to be perfect and stop thinking that flaws are avoidable. Literally everyone has flaws, including you. No human is perfect and that’s okay.

3- Change up your perspective.

Something that might help you not take something personally is by changing your perspective of it. Yes, your feelings might be hurt but think about the bigger picture. Will this matter a year – or even a week – from now? Is it really important? Or try changing your perspective by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. What do you think they meant by it? Why do you think they did/said this thing? Think about it in other ways and I’m sure you’ll realize that maybe you’re overreacting.

4- Build up your positive folder.

If you’re someone who struggles with going into a negative thought spiral every time someone says something negative to you, this could help. Build up your positive folder – literally or metaphorically. Some people actually create a physical or digital folder full of positive messages, compliments they’ve received, or good things they’ve done.

5- Evaluate your relationships.

If there’s someone who you constantly feel is attacking you, really think about it. Sometimes it’s not just hypersensitivity. Sometimes a toxic person is just a toxic person. It might be time for you to evaluate your relationships and figure out if anyone is just a negative influence in your life. Try to limit your interactions with this person, or cut ties completely if you need to.

7- Try to clarify what happened.

If there’s a specific situation (or multiple situations) that are bothering you, maybe you should talk them out. Instead of overthinking about it and letting it stress you out, gain some clarity. Ask the person what they meant. Communicate about it and let them know how you feel. Get things out in the open and maybe you can gain some understanding, which will make you feel so much better.

8- Ask yourself if you could learn something from it.

Next time someone has something negative to say about you, ask yourself if you can learn something from it. I’m not talking about when someone insults you or criticizes you out of spite. I’m talking about people who have constructive criticism for you. Ask yourself if they could have a point with what they said and see if it’s something you could actually improve. Take it as healthy criticism and learn from it.

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WHY YOU NEED TO MAKE “ME TIME” A PRIORITY:

4  REASONS WHY YOU NEED TO MAKE “ME TIME” A PRIORITY:

1. People Are Draining // People are draining. Point blank. It’s simply fact. If you spend all of your time with people, even really good friends, you’ll find yourself exhausted and in dire need of alone time. This is true even for extroverts. Both extroverts and introverts need times alone with themselves. When you spend time alone before investing time into others, you’ll find that the time you end up spending with others will be more appreciated and intentional.

2. To Clear Your Mind // Clutter is no good, especially when it comes to your mind. By spending time alone, you can more easily filter out any clutter than could be causing you stress. When you try to filter out the bad from the good when you’re in the presence of others, there’s more chaos and pressure, so you most likely won’t be able to give yourself the best clarity. Get alone with yourself and discover clarity.

3. To Exercise Thinking Deeply // When you’re surrounded by the thoughts and opinions of others, it can get tiring and can clog up your view of what your thoughts and opinions are. Thinking deeply is something that I think everyone should exercise, because it helps you understand things more and it helps you to solve problems better when you need to.

4. To Find & Remember Your Own Voice // When you’re constantly taking in from everything around you, your own voice can get lost in the hustle and bustle. If you don’t make “me time” a priority in your life, it’ll be easier for you to forget about your own voice, and you can grow unhappy. Without alone time, you may lose sight of what really matters to you, both the big and small things. When “me time” is a priority in your life, you can find your own voice and remember it. “Me time” is meant to recharge your true self, so that you can be the best version of yourself when you’re out in the world.

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6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure

6 Ways to help your child overcome the fear of failure 

1. Change your attitude about failing 

Be mindful of your own responses to mistakes and failure. Talk about what you've learned, and be willing to pick yourself up and try again.

Encourage and celebrate your child's mistakes as learning experiences. 

2. Emphasize effort, not ability 

Emphasize effort ( and the process ) over ability ( and the outcome). 

When they struggle, discuss specific strategies that might work next time. 

3. Demonstrate Unconditional love

Make it clear that you love your child unconditionally, even when they make mistakes or use poor judgement. 

4. Conduct the "Worst-Case  Scenario" Exercise 

Start by grabbing a piece of paper so you can brainstorm together with you child. 

Ask Them questions like. "If it all goes wrong, what's the worst thing that could happen?"

5. Help them Focus on the Solution 

Discuss what actions they took, the consequences of these actions, and how these consequences can be avoided in the future.

Ask question like: "What Went wrong?"

"How can you fix or prevent this next time?"

6. Have conversations about success and failure 

Talk about success using the "iceberg analogy."

Explain that when you see successful people, you only see the tip of the iceberg. You don't see what's under the water ,"failures, rejection, grit, effort, discipline, persistence, etc. 

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Helpful tips for parents to handle naughty kids

Helpful tips for parents to handle naughty kids

Parenting is all about understanding the needs of your child and ensuring that he develops into a person with good values and morals.  Read on to understand some tips on parenting a naughty child.

1.    Encourage good behavior from them; behave in a way you would expect of them. Explain how you feel about their behavior.

2.    Establish rules, limits and boundaries. He may test these limits so be consistent in your approach. Let him know what is not right or acceptable, and that he/she will be punished for bad behavior.

 3.    Teach anger control; it is important to teach them self-control and anger control by behaving in the way you want them to behave. Help him understand that they need to put their feelings or anger in words rather that screaming or shouting.

 4.    Reward them for good behavior with praise, good words, and smiles. Discipline is not about punishments only, but about recognizing good behavior as well. Reward for good behavior can have a significant effect.

 5.    Encourage him to be active. Let them play outdoor games or go the park. This helps to dissipate their energy in a positive way.

 6.    Talk and listen to him. Speak calmly, but firmly, if you do not agree with them. Do not scream or get angry.

 7.    Give them responsibilities as this makes them feel grown up and channelizes their energy in a constructive way.

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Teaching healthy habits and values to your kids

Teaching healthy habits and values to your kids

Eating Healthy and Well: Good healthy eating habits for kids are of utmost importance in the formative years. Though sometimes it may become quite challenging for you, the key is, to make the food look appealing to your child. Refrain from feeding junk and sugary food your child. Make them aware of the ill-effects of eating unhealthy food and help them in making right choices in food.

Outdoor Activities: Along with a good diet, it is very important for a kid to be physically active. Prompt your kid to spend more time in outdoor activities.

Sleeping On Time: Good sleep helps the child feel rejuvenated and fresh for the day. Set up a sleeping routine for your child and adhere to it. Irregular sleeping hours can make your child irritable and erratic.

Breakfast-The Most Important Meal of the Day: Never let your kid skip breakfast as it will give them the energy for the day.

Inculcate Good Reading Habits: Reading habit is very good for every child. Reading not only helps in grasping a language better but a child learns to become more imaginative and creative

Spending Time with The Family: Spending time with the family is very important for a growing child. They not only learn to bond with the family members, but also the importance of spending quality family time together. 

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Why you should encourage listening skills?

Why you should encourage listening skills

You might think listening is an automatic response, and it’s true it can be hard to shut out the noise of the world around you, but effective listening is about processing the sounds and responding appropriately to the cues. Effective listening is an essential skill for learning and it’s something you can help your child develop.

The Advantages

If your daughter learns to listen well, she’ll be better at gathering, analyzing, storing and retrieving information. She’ll be more able to use that information to make the intuitive leaps needed to understand what’s being taught at school. Her language and communication skills will be stronger making her better at seeking clarification, expressing ideas and sharing her thought processes; this leads to increased engagement in the learning activity that will help her consolidate her new knowledge more effectively.

What you can help

 Playing games that involve sound can help your daughter associate sound with meaning. You can use rhyming songs and games to help her learn anything from counting to brushing her teeth. You can encourage her to listen more carefully by taking her on a sound walk to give her the opportunity to explore the world around her with more than just sight. Playing verbal word games, such as Twenty Questions or I-Spy, will help her concentrate on what’s being said, extract the relevant information and use it to formulate an appropriate response. This will also help develop the neural pathways in her brain that support memory

It can be infuriating when your child doesn’t listen to you and, while this can sometimes be because she’s so absorbed in what she’s doing she’s blocked out all distractions, it could be she needs to improve her listening skills. It’s comforting to know you can play an active role in this; the better she gets the more effectively she’ll learn and the easier she’ll find it to make and keep friends.

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5 way to prevent behaviour problem in school age-kids

5 way to prevent behaviour problem in school-age kids

To prevent behaviour problems in children both at home and in school, (aside from paying more attention to preschool children), here are some strategies that parents and teachers can use:

Pay attention to what a child asks or demands. Being attentive to the requests of children will make them feel more important and can help them to see things in a positive light.

You can help children to have a positive outlook in life by going a few steps further. As early as now, you can teach a child to have a positive outlook in life by guiding him or her to be more independent and self-sufficient.

Always assure a child of your love and support. Saying “I love you” daily or as often as you can help the child cope with the possible sadness he or she feels whenever you’re not around. The assurance of your love and support can also give them more self-confidence.

Listen to what a child says. Being interested in a child’s daily activities or asking him or her how they feel about certain things will make the child that feel he or she matters. This feeling of significance can help a child feel secure knowing that the adults in their life regard them as important.

Nurture a child’s interests. Encouraging and nurturing a child’s interests, hobbies, and inclinations will make him or her feel that you support his or her decisions and choices. Goo

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Symptoms of dissociative Amnesia

Dissociative Amnesia

A. An inability to recall important autobiographical information, usually of  traumatic or stressful nature, that is inconsistent with ordinary forgetting.

B. The Symptoms causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

C. The disturbance is not attributable to the physiological effects of a substance ( e.g., alcohol or other drug of abuse, a medication) or a neurological or other medical condition (e.g., partial complex seizures, transient global amnesia, sequelae of a closed head in jury/traumatic brain injury, other neurological condition).

D. The disturbance is not better explained by dissociative identity disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder, acute stress disorder, somatic symptom disorder, or major or mild neurocognitive disorder.

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learning difficulties in children ?

Learning difficulties in children ?

Learning difficulties are not primarily due to low intelligence, sensory problems such as vision or hearing problems, emotional problems or poor parenting or teaching. Common Characteristics of a learning difficulty:

 Common characteristics of a learning difficulty.

1. Average to above average general ability, but with under-achievement in some learning areas.

2. Difficulties with the development of literacy skills: reading accuracy and comprehension, spelling, written expression.

3. Difficulty with "multi-modal" tasks, such as listening to the teacher at the same time as copying from the board or making something.

4. Taking longer than other children to carry out and complete a task.

5. Difficulties with spelling (e.g., may add, omit or substitute vowels or consonants).

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