What Is the Best Way to Deal With Temper Tantrums?

What Is the Best Way to Deal With Temper Tantrums?

Does your child throws himself to the ground, screams, and kicks his feet? You're not alone. All kids throw temper tantrums every once in a while.

Reasons for Temper Tantrums

When your child exhibits a colossal meltdown, take a minute to examine the underlying reason. Kids have tantrums for two main reasons—the inability to manage their emotions or an attempt to control the situation.

Don’t Give In to Stop the Temper Tantrum

Make sure temper tantrums aren't effective for your child. If he throws a fit in the store because he wants you to buy him a toy, don’t buy him one. Giving in might make things easier in the short-term because it will make the tantrum stop. In the long run, it will only reinforce to your child that tantrums are a good way to get what he wants.

Provide Negative Consequence for Tantrums

Temper tantrums need negative consequences so your child will learn not to throw them. Ignoring the behaviour can be a great strategy to reduce tantrums. After all, it's not much fun to pitch a fit without an audience.

Look the other way, pretend you don't hear anything, and act as though you aren't bothered by your child's temper tantrum. Although the screaming may get louder at first, your child will eventually learn that throwing a temper tantrum won't get your attention.

Sometimes, a timeout is warranted as well. If your child’s behaviours are too disruptive for him to remain in a store, for example, take him to the car for a timeout. Then continue your shopping trip when he is calm.

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5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

 Give Daily Doses of Positive Attention

Non-compliance can be a great way for kids to get lots of attention. And even though it's negative attention, some kids crave it anyway. Ward off attention-seeking behavior by giving your child daily doses of positive attention. Play a game together, spend time talking, or go for a walk.

 Give Effective Instructions

Make sure the defiant behavior you’re witnessing is actually defiance. If your child didn't hear you or he's too distracted playing his video game that he isn't listening, you may need to change how you give directions. Establish eye contact or put a hand on your child's shoulder to get his attention before you speak. Turn off the background noise and make sure your child is paying attention so you he can absorb what you're telling him to do. 

Offer Choices

One of the best ways to combat defiant behavior is to offer two choices. Then, your child will feel like she has some control over the situation. Avoid questions like, "Do you want to get dressed now?" because a defiant child will automatically say, "No!" Ask a questions like, “Do you want to wear your red shirt or the yellow shirt?” Just make sure you can live with either choice.

Establish a Behavior Contract

Behavior contracts remind children that they can earn more privileges once they show they can behave responsibly. Set up a behavior contract that will help your child show you when he’s ready for more privileges

Create a Reward System

Create a reward system that gives your child an incentive to be compliant. Provide frequent positive reinforcement and consider creating a token economy system to keep your child on track.

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