5 Ways to Deal with a
Child's Defiance
Give Daily Doses of Positive Attention
Non-compliance can be a great way for kids to get lots
of attention. And even though it's negative attention, some kids crave it
anyway. Ward off attention-seeking behavior by giving your child
daily doses of positive attention. Play a game together, spend time talking, or
go for a walk.
Give
Effective Instructions
Make sure the defiant behavior you’re witnessing
is actually defiance. If your child didn't hear you or he's too distracted
playing his video game that he isn't listening, you may need to change how
you give directions. Establish eye contact or put a hand on your child's
shoulder to get his attention before you speak. Turn off the background noise
and make sure your child is paying attention so you he can absorb what you're
telling him to do.
Offer
Choices
One of the best ways to combat defiant behavior is to
offer two choices. Then, your child will feel like she has some control over
the situation. Avoid questions like, "Do you want to get dressed
now?" because a defiant child will automatically say, "No!" Ask
a questions like, “Do you want to wear your red shirt or the yellow shirt?”
Just make sure you can live with either choice.
Establish
a Behavior Contract
Behavior contracts remind children that they can earn
more privileges once they show they can behave responsibly. Set up a behavior
contract that will help your child show you when he’s ready for more privileges
Create
a Reward System
Create a reward system that gives your child an
incentive to be compliant. Provide frequent positive reinforcement and consider
creating a token economy system to keep your child on track.
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