5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

5 Ways to Deal with a Child's Defiance

 Give Daily Doses of Positive Attention

Non-compliance can be a great way for kids to get lots of attention. And even though it's negative attention, some kids crave it anyway. Ward off attention-seeking behavior by giving your child daily doses of positive attention. Play a game together, spend time talking, or go for a walk.

 Give Effective Instructions

Make sure the defiant behavior you’re witnessing is actually defiance. If your child didn't hear you or he's too distracted playing his video game that he isn't listening, you may need to change how you give directions. Establish eye contact or put a hand on your child's shoulder to get his attention before you speak. Turn off the background noise and make sure your child is paying attention so you he can absorb what you're telling him to do. 

Offer Choices

One of the best ways to combat defiant behavior is to offer two choices. Then, your child will feel like she has some control over the situation. Avoid questions like, "Do you want to get dressed now?" because a defiant child will automatically say, "No!" Ask a questions like, “Do you want to wear your red shirt or the yellow shirt?” Just make sure you can live with either choice.

Establish a Behavior Contract

Behavior contracts remind children that they can earn more privileges once they show they can behave responsibly. Set up a behavior contract that will help your child show you when he’s ready for more privileges

Create a Reward System

Create a reward system that gives your child an incentive to be compliant. Provide frequent positive reinforcement and consider creating a token economy system to keep your child on track.

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